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On Being a Wife

Posted in Just Us with tags , on Thursday, June 17, 2010 by Becky

“Enjoy life with the wife whom you love, all the days of your vain life that he has given you under the sun, because that is your portion in life and in your toil at which you toil under the sun.” Eccl.9:9 ESV (emphasis mine)

This we read tonight at the family table, and these words struck me hard. The advice is for the husband, “Enjoy life with the wife whom you love…” but I am in there too; I am the wife whom  my Beloved loves, and the questions here are these:  Am I a joy to live with? Am I being the kind of wife he would enjoy being all the days of his life? Am I being lovable?

God has blessed me indeed with a godly man whom I know loves me dearly and esteems me high. He bears with me and my sinful nature every day, but all these makes the challenge even greater… Am I really being every day the wife God wants me to be to make my Beloved’s life more enjoyable with me?

I have not walked an extra mile lately to serve him better, to love him more, to make his life happier; and this I promised once, on the altar before God.

Being a wife is more than just being there, managing the house well and being a super-mom. Sometimes, I forget that he married me to be his wife, his companion, his best friend and lover forever; it was later that I became the mom of his children.

When I said “Yes”  I was 20 years old, 18 years have passed and I am still a wife on the making.

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A Reminder – mammography-

Posted in My Thoughts with tags , , on Friday, June 11, 2010 by Becky

My Beloved gave me a gift yesterday; he paid for my annual mammography, and was there, sitting in the waiting room awaiting for me; he hugged me hard when he saw me coming out, and I fell in love once again.


Yes, it is not something I like to do, but have been faithful in doing it once a year since I turned 35. My doctor recommends to have a mammography and an ultrasound taken together, because both are complementary, and so I have done.

The room was cold, freezing cold, and as I stood there, I prayed, and to be true, the hardest thing for me while being there was to think about the “what if…”

“What if they found something?” and at the same time I found myself responding, “If they find something, then it will be on time, that is why come to have this tests taken, to be able to detect on time any abnormalities”. But most of all in that cold, freezing cold room, I prayed to my Heavenly Father, and asked Him to give me the  peace which comes only when we rely on God’s faithfulness, in His sovereignty reigning in our lives. Why was I afraid?, He is my Father, and He upholds me with His mighty hand, even in the most cold, freezing cold rooms.

What about you? Maybe today you can pick up the phone and set an appointment for your so long-awaited mammography.

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18 Years

Posted in Celebrate Life, Just Us with tags , on Wednesday, June 9, 2010 by Becky

I opened my eyes as I felt his hand over mine. I came closer to him and we whispered “Happy Anniversary”

18 years of happy marriage can only happen because of God’s grace. A man and his woman come together and walk into a covenant that resembles Christ’s perfect union with his Church. A holy union that makes them one body, one soul, One.

Marriage is a mystery indeed. When I think on how we have walked 18 years together under His grace, I ponder on what marriage really is: two sinful creatures pursuing what might look impossible, love each other as we die to ourselves. Marriage can never survive where two never become one, and even fight not to become one.

As another year passes and we touch and kiss, and hold hands, and dream together I am the more convinced that marriage is the best place to grow in the Lord. I remember when I was a teenager and I wanted to change the world and go to the mission field to serve my Lord there; yet in His providence He did not allow me to do so, instead he brought me to my Man; and here, by his side in our home is where I have found that God wants me to serve Him, where dying to myself produces delicious fruits.

Sometimes it might seem easier to serve outside our home, yet for me, the trial has been more than once as simple as to bring my husband a glass of water when he is thirsty and we are already in bed and I am tired of a long day. Other times, the growing process has been to learn to honor him in every conversation, always lifting him up and not tearing him down. Marriage is a place where we need to take off our sandals because it is indeed holy ground. Marriage was from the beginning a place where the Man and his Woman come naked before their Maker and doing so they glorify Him.

18 years and we still have dreams, and we still hold hands, and we still look for each other’s bodies in the night. It is a mystery, it is holy ground.

Other related posts:
Marriage and Wine
One + One= One
Marriage and Sola Scriptura
In Love for 63 Years
Another great post about Marriage and the Ten Commandments, 
by Douglas Wilson, is found here.
And one of my favorite articles about love, My Song is Love Unknown, 
by Toby Sumpter is found here.

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A Mom in the Making

Posted in A Song to Sing, Just Us with tags , , , , , on Saturday, May 8, 2010 by Becky

It was us promising to love each other forever, until death due us apart. Two sinners entering into a God honoring covenant. Two forgiven sinners ready to live a life of sanctification together.

And God blessed us with children, one by one they came into our lives and we are all now walking in the Covenant, loving our Maker.

It’s been almost 18 years, and I still wonder at the miracle:

I did become a wife and a Mom.

I longed for this since my childhood, and the Lord heard me and answered me.

Today I am still a Mom in the making, and I am amazed; God uses sinner women like me, washes them and uses them to teach His Word to little souls, to nurture lives that will live eternally.

Isn’t God’s Grace incomprehensible?

This Mother’s Day weekend, I will be reading Praise Her in the Gates by Nancy Wilson because I am still a Mom in the making.

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Marriage and Wine

Posted in A Song to Sing, Just Us with tags , , , on Saturday, May 1, 2010 by Becky

Marriage is a gift from God, and so is wine. Both are symbols of God’s blessing throughout the Bible.

Marriage and wine, both are costly, and both should get better over time.

We have learned to invest in our marriage, we travel together and leave the kids behind, because we know that we need to invest in our vineyard. There are times when you need to go away with your spouse and work hard in your land, you need to pull together weeds and after a long day of work, sit and drink from the fruit of your labor, from the richness of your marriage. From the fruit of your vineyard…

Keep on reading here

I am posting this from my iPhone!
I am sorry is not pretty.

Have a joyous weekend!

Becky

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The Liberty Hotel

Posted in Food, On The Go with tags , on Tuesday, April 27, 2010 by Becky

What I found very interesting about this hotel is how someone would think that investing so much money  ($150 million) in renovating the old Charles Street Jail,  to transform it into a great hotel would be such a profitable business. And they were just right!

There were people coming in just to see this great architectural achievement. And yes, it is a great building. I have to say that as you walk through the lobby your eyes immediately want to see up. The light coming in contrasting the black  iron of  the vestiges of the jail cells, and the red brick on the walls, its amazing.

The furniture has a hint of contemporary taste, but it not simplistic, it is welcoming. You really want to sit and enjoy the place. They have colorful neon lights behind the cells, which makes it very unique.

So we did. We sat at the Clink, a restaurant that surprised us with great food. We ordered an amazing green garlic soup, then we shared  the Seared Sea Scallops…just fabulous! and of course we had dessert, a rhubarb, apple, and white raisins cobbler with a scoop of vanilla bean ice-cream on top.

We had such a relaxing conversation, the service was great and they even allowed us to play with our camera; so here are some pictures for you to enjoy.

And here too… I saw His hand, because walking with the Lord also happens when you go out with your husband to enjoy a great evening together.

Even this is Grace!

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In Love for 63 Years

Posted in A Song to Sing with tags , , , , on Thursday, March 11, 2010 by Becky

My grandfather turned 91 years old, and has been married to my grandmother for 63 years.

They are the most beautiful couple, in love, always holding hands, always talking about their memories and present love. Always laughing and looking for opportunities to kiss and hug.

They live their moment with passion and joy. They laugh of the future, they hold hands in such a way that it seems that they don’t want to be apart, not even for a moment.

Their story of love is not a fairy tale, is a love story that has happened in real life. They came into this marriage knowing, believing that it was a covenant forever.  They have walked through valleys and mountains, but haven’t given up on their love.

This is an example of grace that we behold, and want to follow.

This is the way my children long to live their marriage.

Forever in love.

This is Real, this can happen.

Marriage is a Covenant for life.

Love and kisses and holding hands are part of being in that covenant.

It is not a fairy tale.

TOMORROW, MY FRIEND EILEEN WILL BE SHARING IN THIS SPACE ABOUT HOMESCHOOLING ONE CHILD. THE THEME WILL BE “PLAYS WELL WITH OTHER CHILDREN”…YOU ARE MORE THAN WELCOME TO COME. SHE IS A DELIGHT.

This post  -with a twist- can be now found at my New Blog

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