On Being a Wife
“Enjoy life with the wife whom you love, all the days of your vain life that he has given you under the sun, because that is your portion in life and in your toil at which you toil under the sun.” Eccl.9:9 ESV (emphasis mine)
This we read tonight at the family table, and these words struck me hard. The advice is for the husband, “Enjoy life with the wife whom you love…” but I am in there too; I am the wife whom my Beloved loves, and the questions here are these: Am I a joy to live with? Am I being the kind of wife he would enjoy being all the days of his life? Am I being lovable?
God has blessed me indeed with a godly man whom I know loves me dearly and esteems me high. He bears with me and my sinful nature every day, but all these makes the challenge even greater… Am I really being every day the wife God wants me to be to make my Beloved’s life more enjoyable with me?
I have not walked an extra mile lately to serve him better, to love him more, to make his life happier; and this I promised once, on the altar before God.
Being a wife is more than just being there, managing the house well and being a super-mom. Sometimes, I forget that he married me to be his wife, his companion, his best friend and lover forever; it was later that I became the mom of his children.
When I said “Yes” I was 20 years old, 18 years have passed and I am still a wife on the making.