On Being a Wife

Enjoy life with the wife whom you love, all the days of your vain life that he has given you under the sun, because that is your portion in life and in your toil at which you toil under the sun.” Eccl.9:9 ESV (emphasis mine)

This we read tonight at the family table, and these words struck me hard. The advice is for the husband, “Enjoy life with the wife whom you love…” but I am in there too; I am the wife whom  my Beloved loves, and the questions here are these:  Am I a joy to live with? Am I being the kind of wife he would enjoy being all the days of his life? Am I being lovable?

God has blessed me indeed with a godly man whom I know loves me dearly and esteems me high. He bears with me and my sinful nature every day, but all these makes the challenge even greater… Am I really being every day the wife God wants me to be to make my Beloved’s life more enjoyable with me?

I have not walked an extra mile lately to serve him better, to love him more, to make his life happier; and this I promised once, on the altar before God.

Being a wife is more than just being there, managing the house well and being a super-mom. Sometimes, I forget that he married me to be his wife, his companion, his best friend and lover forever; it was later that I became the mom of his children.

When I said “Yes”  I was 20 years old, 18 years have passed and I am still a wife on the making.

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7 Responses to “On Being a Wife”

  1. How beautiful! I’m so grateful to be able to come to your blog and find encouragement to keep my head and my heart from wandering away into busyness.

  2. oh boy, the accountability of having read your blog today weighs heavy on me. Pray that my heart will be soft and my will will be conforming to Christ’s will for me on this matter. Thank you for the sharpening that you do in my life – I am grateful.

  3. Dear Becky,
    I have been reading your blog for a few weeks. I really appreciate your thoughts. I homeschooled my daughter for many years and my Husband and I are going on 19 years of marriage. I often tell our daughter life is too short and too hard not to choose to be in love with your husband (this is usually in response to us hugging and give a quick kiss when we greet). Thank you for your expression of this in and through you blog – your photography is beautiful, your spirit is humble and Christ like, your joy and love are evident.
    “A joyful heart is the normal result of a heart burning with love.” – Mother Teresa

  4. These are very beautiful words today Becky and ones to keep reminding ourselves throughout our marriages.

    There are 10 years between the first and last of our three children, so by the time they all left home I had spent 27 of our first 32 yrs of marriage devoted to raising them. When “empty nest syndrome” began to set it, my dearly beloved would gently remind me that we started out with just each other, and we will finish that way with great joy.

    There is no eathly treasure more blessed than a godly, loving husband. No wonder Christ uses marriage as an analogy of His relationship to His Bride, the church!

    God bless you today Becky!

  5. Wonderful blog! Convicting!

  6. What an incredibly blessed devotional thought, sister. Thank you for sharing that. Often, even godly husbands are so busy trying to love their wives as Christ loved the church, that we don’t take time to meditate upon what God is doing in that very special spouse’s life.

    May the Lord continue to bless you and keep you.

  7. How beautiful Becky. Your reflections always give me opportunity to think about the Word of God. In view of God’s amazing love for His children, consider how weighty the responsibility is that we have to manifest the love and glory of God to our beloved spouses? That He would entrust our spouses to us is a humbling thought. This is certainly something that cannot be done apart from the Holy Spirit. May God give us the grace that we need to truly love and serve our husbands in a way that would bring them joy and draw them nearer to the cross.

    Have a beautiful day my precious sister!

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